TOPIC: Husband reaches out to wife who wants to leave
"John" came to me, deeply concerned. His wife was thinking about leaving him after many years together, and he wanted a song that would celebrate her and persuade her to stay. What we ended up with, though, was a surprise to both of us. Our song-interview journey pointed the way to an unexpected question: What if John stopped trying to persuade, and instead sought to deeply understand his wife's predicament by "walking a mile in her shoes." What emerged was profoundly moving to him, and to me as well. And wait till you see what international harpist Deborah Henson-Conant brought to the mix when we took the song, and Deborah, into the studio!
TOPIC: The Love of a Pet, The Loss of a Pet And a New Understanding of Love
I HAD A ONCE-IN-A-LIFETIME SONG PERFORMANCE EXPERIENCE
Last weekend I was invited to perform a song in a church...
...and I had an experience that felt so rare, so unexpected, and so connective, that I want to try to put words to it here, and share it with you.
The song is called "Once Upon a Dog," and I performed it live at the First Parish UU Church in Concord, MA, as part of a weekend-long event there around "Reverence for Life."
TOPIC: Cancer (& other unplanned journeys)
Uncharted Territory: Part 1
AUTHOR'S NOTES, 5/17/17 INSERT
Note 1: This song, "From the Inside," is "Part 1" and relates to a follow-up song about the wonder of more fully experiencing the world around you, even--or perhaps especially--in a time of challenge (a cancer journey): "The Days of Your Opening."
Note 2: In December of 2016, sadly, Marie Pechet passed on. At her request, I performed this song as a centerpiece performance at her funeral. I had never performed it live before. It had been composed, at her request, nearly a decade earlier, when doctors had given her only a year or so to live. She outlived all prognoses and expectations, was a featured panel guest on NPR's series' about Living Exuberantly with Cancer, and began a blog that became increasingly popular over the course of her lifetime called "Adventures in Spiritual Living." She will be missed.
LEARNING HOW NOT TO "BE" WITH CANCER
Marie called me out of the blue one day a few months ago asking me to write a song to help her navigate her overwhelming experience with cancer. The story she told me was very inspirational. This was Marie's second experience with the disease, and this time felt very, very different to her from the first time. She explained that several years ago, she had been diagnosed with breast cancer. From the moment of diagnosis until it was all over, she was worried but still felt she would get through this, like it would just be a short visit to the land of cancer. She did not want to join support groups. She did not want to say the word "cancer." She wanted to get through it and return to life as it had been. And, that is what happened. Quick surgery, and no chemo required. But then, several years and two adopted children later, Marie and her husband found themselves with two young sons whose mother faced a core-shaking diagnosis: stage III colon cancer.
TOPIC: Making Friends with Our Inner Child
TOPIC: "In the voice of" wife to husband
TOPIC: Having a little fun with fretting
TOPIC: Working through tough patch in friendship
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